Guys fall in love for one good reason, and all other factors are a part of making yourself attractive to him. Understanding attraction and how it works for your guy is crucial if you want to be connected to the guy you're dating. Think back to the last relationship you were in when the guy was doing all types of things to impress you. He may have been making plans, showing up at lunch, sending flowers or bringing gifts when you met for dinner.
And, then suddenly, he stopped. Think back to how that made you feel. If you enjoyed the gifts, the attention, the time and energy, then you probably feel deflated and may have felt that you lost the feelings you thought you had for him. When relationships get more comfortable things get into a routine and can become more predictable. He feels the same way when you start taking the relationship for granted. The intense passion and sizzle a man may have been feeling for you can fizzle before it's fully engrained in his brain. What's fizzling isn't just physical attraction but also mental and emotional attraction.
These are the things that get a man to open up and share himself with you and return that loving feeling into your relationship. These are the things that bond a man to his woman for a lifetime. So, when he says that he isn't "in love" anymore, what he's really saying is that he wants to feel that emotional attraction. Men are different from women, in that they can experience physical attraction (and act on it) without any emotional attraction or commitment. However, men are looking for love and want that lifetime commitment. But, they won't settle for just physical attraction - they have to have both.
At this point he may ask for 'space' in the relationship and it's time that you give it to him. Don't fight what he wants because it will backfire. No one likes to be held on by someone they want distance from. Instead, allow him the space and don't force the closeness.
Take this time to get to know yourself better and enjoy learning something new in your life. When you are together, suggest things that are new and different. If you normally would go for dinner, pack a picnic lunch and go to the park. Go ice-skating in the winter or roller blading in the summer. Activities that get the blood pumping also get the adrenalin running and sometimes that adrenalin can move you both toward more emotional intimacy.
When you are together, mirror his movements and gestures which shows him that you're interested and watching him. Take a sip of your drink when he does, point your feet toward him, use some of the same words and phrases that he does, and appreciate some of the same recreational activities that he does - such as chess, music or hockey.
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And, then suddenly, he stopped. Think back to how that made you feel. If you enjoyed the gifts, the attention, the time and energy, then you probably feel deflated and may have felt that you lost the feelings you thought you had for him. When relationships get more comfortable things get into a routine and can become more predictable. He feels the same way when you start taking the relationship for granted. The intense passion and sizzle a man may have been feeling for you can fizzle before it's fully engrained in his brain. What's fizzling isn't just physical attraction but also mental and emotional attraction.
These are the things that get a man to open up and share himself with you and return that loving feeling into your relationship. These are the things that bond a man to his woman for a lifetime. So, when he says that he isn't "in love" anymore, what he's really saying is that he wants to feel that emotional attraction. Men are different from women, in that they can experience physical attraction (and act on it) without any emotional attraction or commitment. However, men are looking for love and want that lifetime commitment. But, they won't settle for just physical attraction - they have to have both.
At this point he may ask for 'space' in the relationship and it's time that you give it to him. Don't fight what he wants because it will backfire. No one likes to be held on by someone they want distance from. Instead, allow him the space and don't force the closeness.
Take this time to get to know yourself better and enjoy learning something new in your life. When you are together, suggest things that are new and different. If you normally would go for dinner, pack a picnic lunch and go to the park. Go ice-skating in the winter or roller blading in the summer. Activities that get the blood pumping also get the adrenalin running and sometimes that adrenalin can move you both toward more emotional intimacy.
When you are together, mirror his movements and gestures which shows him that you're interested and watching him. Take a sip of your drink when he does, point your feet toward him, use some of the same words and phrases that he does, and appreciate some of the same recreational activities that he does - such as chess, music or hockey.
You can learn more about attraction men here.